Potty training problems

Do you ever have problems with your child regarding potty training at their daycare or school? My best friend forwarded this interesting news article to me this morning:

http://www.komonews.com/news/local/43405212.html

When I first read the article I was shocked to find out what the child's teacher had done after he had an accident. From what was read this was not the first time this child has had an accident.

While feelings regarding what the teacher did were mixed, once I analyzed the situation I understood the teachers intentions. However, I did not agree with her sending evidence home to the parents. Perhaps a phone call to the parents when the incident happened is sufficient.

Potty training doesn't always go as planned. Days, weeks, months and even years may go by and suddenly a child is having accidents. It can be from extreme stress, physical ailments, diseases, etc.

I remember my brother having serious problems early on in elementary school. He had numerous bowel movement accidents at home and school. Our principal was on medical leave and the interim principal had enough and put my brother on homebound for the remainder of his third grade year.

Another three years go by and the two of us are living with our paternal grandmother. She takes him to her doctor who finally diagnosed him as having a Spastic colon. With exercise particularly to build his stomach muscles and some changes in his diet within a month there was a drastic change.

Many people just assumed it was a mental issue for my brother. He was chastised, disciplined and isolated during all those years before his diagnosis. Even the people whom he was supposed to depend on for an education let him down immensely. 

At 28 years old my brother is a totally different person. I am not sure about him though the memories of those years living with him and his spastic colon have left a lasting impression I believe in order to help others.

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Potty Training

Every day I am asked questions about when to start potty training or how should one deal with problems that arise?

Potty training is a BIG transition for a child. They have been depending on mom and or dad since birth to care for them. Now it is time to be trained to do something Big on their own.

Potty training girls is typically around age 2 to 2 1/2 although I have met parents who have successfully potty trained their daughters as early as a year old. Potty training boys is typically around age 3 to 3 1/2. Again, this is just average. Some boys have potty trained at age 2. Look for the cues to see if your child is ready.

If they are staying dry during nap time and at bed time, showing discomfort in wearing a soiled diaper and/or wanting to use the potty then your child is indicating they are ready to go for the big transition.

I remind parents that potty training is a learning experience for their child. Make it as positive as possible. If you become frustrated, upset or even discouraged your child will pick up on it and refuse to potty train.

There are times though that potty training will have setbacks and can get you down. I know because I have been there with all three of my kids. I can also tell you though that those setbacks do get better eventually disappearing.

Even my middle child who is almost seven has times he wets the bed. So how do I deal with it? Many times I forget to stop letting him have drinks after a certain time before bedtime. I have to remind him to use the bathroom before bed. When he is at his dads he wakes him up about an hour or two after going to sleep for the night.

Potty training my middle child was a challenge. Only later on I found out why it was this way. My son Caleb at 2 1/2 was showing interest in using the potty. I bought him a potty and began showing him how to use it. He became successful at peeing in it. The pooping though was another issue. Shortly after beginning the process, I lost my job then I found out I was expecting a baby. His dad and I had separated then we had to move. All these transitions led to him refusing to potty train. Nearly a year later my son still had very little interest in potty training. In fact, he didn't care to go out, play and run around with a soiled pull up until a neighborhood child would come and let me know about it.  This was embarassing for me and frustrating. Soon I met Janice who along with her husband Mike started the website pottytrainingsite.com .

It took just a weekend to get my son potty trained, just in time to sign up for Head Start Pre-K. I was happy yet very cautious. 

There are many parents going through similar issues as I did. Sometimes potty training problems arise because children are just not ready or there is a big transition going on. If a parent is feeling frustrated or pushing the potty training issue it is going to lead to major setbacks.

Parents too have to be relaxed and ready for potty training. You want to keep potty training a positive learning experience for your child or even children.

Consistency is a major factor in successful potty training. Create a schedule and stick to it. If you decide to put your child in panties or underwear then stay with it. Switching back and forth from diapers, pull ups to panties or underwear will confuse the child.

If your child is not willing to be stuck in the bathroom to be potty trained then be open to having the potty in a room where there is a television to watch movies or their favorite television shows. Allow your child to take a favorite toy with them to use the potty. With both of my boys especially the middle one, having a toy made a huge difference. He was into blue's clues then so he carried his big blue into the bathroom. This is when he started using the potty all on his own. If they love to be read to, consider reading a book. The same is true with singing. Whatever gets them comfortable enough to potty utilize it.

My youngest son Hunter has cooperated so much better when I allow him to carry a Thomas the train or one of Thomas' friends to the potty. He is comfortable and willing to try.

You must also remember that kids will tell you they do not need to go. In the beginning you will have to make your child go until they show consistency and independence in going to the potty.

It is okay to nudge your child. Be observant in what makes your child comfortable when using the potty. This is also a time to bond with your child. If at all possible potty train when you can dedicate a few days to just them.

What is your story? Have you had instant success or have you experienced challenges? 

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Potty training problems (and how to deal with them)

Potty training problems  are normal during the potty training process. You are not alone if you are going through a challenging time trying to potty train your child.

I often meet parents who are at wits end with potty training. They have tried everything from treats, toys, stickers and even bribery to no avail. When you are at wits end it is time to place potty training on hold for awhile.

Everyone needs to gather their composure back and allow time to relax. When your child begins to show some interest in the potty again and you feel you are ready to do it again then go for it.

Your child picks up on when you are feeling stressed, anxious, anxious, frustrated or upset. As a parent myself, I understand there are times when not so great issues arrise. Moving, loss or gain of a job, expecting a new baby or any other transitions will affect your child. 

Comforting and praising them during these times of change is the best thing you can do for your child. There are so many parents who are expecting a baby very soon and want to push the potty training process into warp speed. However, your child may not be ready for the process and begin to rebel. Sit down, relax and write down what you want for your child, as a goal sheet. Place positive feelings into what you are writing. When you feel completely confident in beginning the process and your child is also ready then it is time.

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A little about my background:

I have three children with one who has developmental delays. I have been married and now I am a single mom. I am also a full time college student (with two semesters left until graduation) with my focus on Sociology and Psychology as well as a full time self employed business owner. I understand many phases of life.

Even with a very busy schedule I am here to help support parents who want to be successful with potty training. I will guide you through any potty training problems you may experience. I give you many potty training tips not just from my own experience but by others who have had success as well as the expertise.

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