Potty Training
It's been almost a week since I have blogged as I have been preparing for finals before graduation!
Potty training is very close to my heart after going through so much with my middle child four years ago. I know there are so many parents who have high hopes that their child will pick up potty training quickly only to become frustrated, angry, even depressed because their child refuses to use the potty.
It's a combination of many things why a child refuses to go potty. When a parent is frustrated they will feel the tension and resist. When a parent disciplines their child because of potty training problems they will resist. There may come a time when a parent will have to step back from potty training for both them and the child to recuperate.
Having had a child with developmental delays (which I did not find out about until six months after successful potty training), behavior problems my eyes were opened to the fact that so many parents experience what I went through and sometimes even worse.
To have people come up and criticize you either bluntly or in disguise really hurts to the core especially when you have done everything you could under the sun to get your child to use the potty. You have people holding it over your head as if you are a failure as a parent because your child is not potty trained by a certain age. Then you have this wish for your child to attend preschool only to be told they won't be accepted unless they are potty trained by XX date.
I truly thought with my oldest son he would never be completely potty trained and if I did get him potty trained it would probably be after his baby brother who was newborn at the time, would be potty trained a few years later.
When I sat down with this same exact method I now offer to parents, I was doubtful it would work because nothing else had been working. As I read through the process, I developed a plan. Once I felt ready mentally and emotionally I implemented the process. In one weekend I had my son potty trained. In one sense I was very ecstatic and in another I was upset. Here was a method that worked in one weekend to accomplish a milestone for my son that took a year and a half!
Potty training is very possible with just about every child. It takes a combination of the parent being ready and the child relaxed and ready to work on it. If one or the other is not ready then most likely the time it takes to potty train will be longer. A parent must be patient and willing to be open to ideas in order to encourage their child to use the potty. I had to be open to letting my son take a favorite toy with him to the potty. In his case, it was a huge Blue's Clue's stuffed dog. He was relaxed and willing to sit on the potty and try going which he did successfully.
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Potty training is very close to my heart after going through so much with my middle child four years ago. I know there are so many parents who have high hopes that their child will pick up potty training quickly only to become frustrated, angry, even depressed because their child refuses to use the potty.
It's a combination of many things why a child refuses to go potty. When a parent is frustrated they will feel the tension and resist. When a parent disciplines their child because of potty training problems they will resist. There may come a time when a parent will have to step back from potty training for both them and the child to recuperate.
Having had a child with developmental delays (which I did not find out about until six months after successful potty training), behavior problems my eyes were opened to the fact that so many parents experience what I went through and sometimes even worse.
To have people come up and criticize you either bluntly or in disguise really hurts to the core especially when you have done everything you could under the sun to get your child to use the potty. You have people holding it over your head as if you are a failure as a parent because your child is not potty trained by a certain age. Then you have this wish for your child to attend preschool only to be told they won't be accepted unless they are potty trained by XX date.
I truly thought with my oldest son he would never be completely potty trained and if I did get him potty trained it would probably be after his baby brother who was newborn at the time, would be potty trained a few years later.
When I sat down with this same exact method I now offer to parents, I was doubtful it would work because nothing else had been working. As I read through the process, I developed a plan. Once I felt ready mentally and emotionally I implemented the process. In one weekend I had my son potty trained. In one sense I was very ecstatic and in another I was upset. Here was a method that worked in one weekend to accomplish a milestone for my son that took a year and a half!
Potty training is very possible with just about every child. It takes a combination of the parent being ready and the child relaxed and ready to work on it. If one or the other is not ready then most likely the time it takes to potty train will be longer. A parent must be patient and willing to be open to ideas in order to encourage their child to use the potty. I had to be open to letting my son take a favorite toy with him to the potty. In his case, it was a huge Blue's Clue's stuffed dog. He was relaxed and willing to sit on the potty and try going which he did successfully.
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posted by Jennifer Bryan @ 12:24 PM
4 Comments:
At 1:35 PM,
Toilet Training Oh What Fun said…
Great blog and article, I found another site with some really great info you might want to check out. I was so lucky my child didnt have any problems when potty training.
www.realpediatrics.com
At 2:47 AM,
Amanda Tempel said…
Hey there!
I am following you from MBC. You were the post ahead of me, so I saw you before I really started the beinning of the list lol :)
http://mylifewithratsandmore.blogspot.com
At 6:27 PM,
Unknown said…
I started potty training my child at 3 years old. I put her in the potty every 15 or 30 minutes. There are lots of accidents for sure, but the pull-ups diaper helped. She learnt less than a month, shorter than I thought. Now she goes potty herself, but still some accidents happen. However, it saved us money from diapers:)
She learnt much faster when unintentionally she saw me crying over her grandma's wet couch from her pee, just because her grandma got so mad at me, and said, "Sorry is inappropriate this time." Maybe some grandmas are hard to their in-laws, especially in living with them. I wonder if she ever told one of her children when his son spilled a red soda staining her carpet like - forever!
I got such a wonderful, loving daughter. That was one of the moments I could never forget potty training her:)
At 5:30 AM,
Emma said…
I started the potty training when my son was 2.5 years old and that was the perfect time for us. I think training can only be successful if the child is ready and the parents relaxed. If you build up to much pressure it will take a lot more time.
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