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Potty training tips and tricks. How to handle your potty training problems and frustrations. Discover the fastest, easiest most effective method for ending your potty training problems and frustration. This blog is about my adventures in potty training toddlers. Toilet training problems can be handled just like any other developmental situation. Kids pee, kids poop in pants, but is all just another mark on the potty training chart.

Monday, February 06, 2006

Potty Training Defiant Children

Defying your authority?

Before assuming that your child is being defiant by refusing to use the toilet like you want, make sure he knows what is expected of him. Sometimes when potty training is started before a child is able to fully control his body, mistakes can happen that the child simply cannot control.

However, if you are dealing with an older child who knows what is expected and has demonstrated that he can control his bodily functions, you need to get to the root of the problem right away.

Are you experiencing trouble in your relationship? Is your child feeling pressure or fear form an external source. The fears don't have to be logical to be very real to your child and have real effects on your child's behavior.

Try to work with your child to find out what is keeping him from feeling safe, secure and happy. Resist the temptation to punish your child for potty training mistakes. Instead work to build his trust and show him love.

Show him you can work together to find a solution to your problem. Get him involved with cleaning up the mistakes but not in a punitive way. Show him cooperation.

Work to calm his fears instead of creating new ones.



  • At 12:17 AM, Blogger Deb said…

    I am looking for advice with my "almost" 3 year old son. He has been going pee in the toilet (he stands on a stool), for months. He struggled with the idea of pooping in his potty, but over the last couple of weeks, he has done it 3 times. Now he is refusing to do it. He wants a diaper whenever he needs to make a poop. I don't know if I should just leave him in his underwear, or if I should continue to give him a diaper and not make a deal out of it. Please give me any advice that you think may help. Thank you!

  • At 6:17 PM, Blogger Ms Janice said…

    My son did the same thing. I left him in underwear instead of going back to diapers. By doing this he realized he didn't like having poop in his clothes and decided to use the potty.


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